They are all memorable for me, but a recent one that will be much remembered is a late December ceremony on a viewpoint overlooking a beach in the very far North of Scotland. We all braved the elements on a windy and cold winter's day but then decided to move the handfasting ritual into the couple's motorhome - bride & groom, three children, two witnesses, a photographer and a celebrant all huddled up... definitely memorable!
Creative Collaborative Supportive Positive Calm
How my business is just the right size so that every couple is very special and unique to me!
Find that sweet spot between planning well and over-planning - keep some space to be surprised!
I love when couples create a memory box and are creative about what goes in it, you then know they will relive this special day over and over again and be reminded of all that was so special about the day.
It's all about communicating with the couple and I always work around their preferences. Some people like to talk, others write, sometimes couples do everything together and sometimes they like to share things individually. I invest time in getting to know couples, give them lots of space to share their ideas, and get a sense of where they want to lead, and where they want to be lead and supported. Because I am happy to work in different ways, there is not any typical process. I sometimes pull together ceremonies within days or weeks, or years and it's always, unique, tailor-made and making it easy for the couple.
A wild-swimming ceremony!
Prepare for all eventualities and in Scotland that means the weather not being quite as planned, the elements interfering, or any other possible glitches. I am by nature a calm person and I try to spread that calm, but in another part of my life I am also a project manager and those skills often come in handy to handle anything that could become stressful!
Getting to know people, listening to their story, and walking alongside them for a while as we make their dream come true.
The arrival - whether the couple sees each other for the first time that day, or arrives together, there is something very special about that moment when it all becomes real!