An engagement party is a brilliant way to celebrate your engagement and surround yourself with your family and friends. Whether you choose to have a formal bash at a countryside hotel or an intimate barbecue in your back garden, everyone will be there to celebrate your engagement and talk about your future wedding plans.
As part of the celebrations, it’s common for there to be speeches at an engagement party to thank everyone for coming. It’s also likely that other members of your family, friends and future wedding party will want to say a few words as well, and offer you love and encouragement for the journey you’re about to take.
But what do you say in an engagement party speech? Should it be long? Funny? Lovey-dovey? Who should give a speech and do you have to give one even if you don’t want to?
In this post, we’re going to dive into everything you need to know about how to write the perfect engagement party speech so you can approach your speech with confidence and say exactly the right things.
Traditionally, you should be prepared to give a short speech at your engagement party. This could be one of you or both of you, depending on who feels confident enough to stand up and speak in front of your family and friends.
If someone is hosting the party, such as the father of the bride, then it’s also common for them to thank everyone for coming.
Depending on your guests, anyone else is also more than welcome to say a few words. This could be any of your parents, a member of your wedding party (such as the best man or maid of honor), your siblings or your friends. There are no hard and fast rules at an engagement party, so if anyone would like to wish you well and congratulate you, it should be encouraged.
While giving a speech at your engagement party isn’t mandatory, it’s a thoughtful way to thank your guests. The type of party you host can influence expectations. For a formal celebration with a full meal, DJ, and dancing, a speech will likely be anticipated. However, for a more casual gathering, like a game night with pizza and drinks, it might not be expected — but it’s still a nice touch to express your gratitude for everyone attending.
If you’re really not happy to give a speech at your engagement party, then there are no rules stating that you have to. There’s always the option to have someone do it on your behalf, such as your mom or your best man.
If you can find the courage to do so, your guests would love it if you could give a very short speech. It doesn’t have to be a 20-minute stand-up routine, just 30 seconds to thank everyone for being there to celebrate with you.
Unlike a wedding, there aren’t strict rules about when to give a speech at an engagement party. It depends on the event’s tone. For a casual gathering, you might want to offer a quick thank you early on, once everyone has arrived. At a more formal affair, it’s best to give your speech either just before or after dinner, as that’s when guests are already gathered together.
Engagement party speeches and wedding speeches have a lot of similarities, but they’re not exactly the same. Read our article on wedding speech examples to see the sort of thing they include. There are a few subtle differences that mean they’re not exactly interchangeable. These include:
An engagement party speech can take any shape you like. If you want to keep it light with a few jokes, that’s great. If you prefer just a short, simple thank you, that works too.
Expect a variety of tones if others speak. The best man might go for laughs, while parents may be more sentimental. For a humorous touch, share fun anecdotes about how you met, but keep things light and avoid too many inside jokes. Balance the humor with sincerity and always finish by expressing your gratitude to the guests.
Unlike a wedding speech, which could be as long as 10 minutes (or more, depending on the speaker) an engagement party speech is usually far shorter. Generally, you wouldn’t want to speak for more than a couple of minutes so you can save most of what you have to say for the wedding itself. The main point you should get across is how glad you are that your guests could make it to be there to celebrate with you.
Depending on who’s giving an engagement party speech, there’s different information you might want to include:
Whether you’re giving a speech at your own engagement party or someone else’s, aim to keep it light, brief, and heartfelt. Save most of your material and top jokes for the wedding itself — after all, the engagement party is just a warm-up for the big day!
Before you sit down to think about what to say in your engagement party speech, think about these tips:
Ready to start writing your engagement party speech but need a little more inspiration to help you get started? Here are a couple of engagement party speech examples you can use as a starting block for your own.
Good evening everyone. I’m Jackson, and on behalf of my beautiful new fiance, Rebecca and I, I’d like to thank you all for coming to our engagement party. We’re so happy you could all be here tonight to celebrate with us. You all get to spend the next few hours in my company, which is a shame for you all, but you can at least be thankful you’re not Rebecca, who now gets to spend the next fifty plus years with me.
For those of you who don’t know, I proposed to Rebecca in Toronto, in the shadow of the CN Tower. Yes, cliché, I know.
Rebecca, I just wanted to say that I’m so excited about our future together. You saying yes was one of the greatest moments of my life and I know what we have in store will continuously top it. We’ve already started browsing venues and you’ve already made what will be a long and difficult challenge so much easier by just being yourself. You make me a better person and I can’t wait to undertake this journey together.
Thank you so much, everyone, for being here, it means the world to Rebecca and me. So, I’d like to raise a glass to say you’re all fantastic and we both love you all very much. Cheers!
I just want to take a moment, on behalf of myself and my new fiance, to thank you all for coming tonight. We really appreciate everyone taking the time to come and celebrate our engagement with us. So I’d just like to raise a glass in appreciation for you all being here tonight. Thank you!
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