So, you’ve decided to propose — exciting times ahead! But before you get down on one knee, there’s one big question to tackle: how much should you spend on an engagement ring?
Should you stick to the old “three-month salary” rule? Does that even make sense for your budget? And if not, can you still find a breathtaking ring within your price range? What metal should you go for? How big should the diamond be? Or do you even need a diamond at all?
In this guide, we’ll cover everything you need to know about buying an engagement ring. We’ll break down the average cost Aussies are spending, why rings can be pricey, and how to find the perfect one — so the only thing left to figure out is when and where to propose!
In Australia, the average amount spent on an engagement ring is around $5,300. However, this is just a guideline — some couples splurge on high-end rings, while others find equally stunning options at a lower price point. At the end of the day, it’s all about choosing a ring that feels right for you and your partner.
For more insights into wedding costs in Australia, check out our ultimate wedding budget breakdown.
Depending on who you ask, there are a couple of different thoughts about how much you should traditionally spend on an engagement ring – and both revolve around how much you earn:
If you’ve read that and started thinking about your income, monthly expenses, and savings, don’t stress. Traditional spending rules exist, but that doesn’t mean you have to follow them.
In Australia, the average annual salary is approximately $94,000, which translates to a monthly income of around $7,830. If you were to follow the traditional one-month salary rule, you’d be looking at spending $7,830 on an engagement ring. Stretch that to three months, and the figure jumps to $23,490. However, these amounts are much higher than what most Australians actually spend on engagement rings, which typically range between $5,000 and $15,000.
This gap shows that strict adherence to the one- or three-month salary rule isn’t necessary. Many couples opt for rings that align with their budget and personal preferences, prioritising the meaning and design of the ring over its price tag.
Engagement rings express how you feel about the person you love, and asking them to marry you is a promise to commit yourself to them for the rest of your life. As such, a gesture like that requires a ring that’s beautiful and meaningful enough to reflect what it represents.
As well as the massive sentimental value, engagement rings are often expensive because of many other reasons:
No, you don’t have to spend the traditional amount on an engagement ring. The average amount spent may be $5,300, but that means many, many rings are bought for way less than this. Of course, it does also mean rings are bought for a lot more, too, like the $60 million pink star. Thankfully, not many people expect their partners to propose with a ring featuring a rock like that.
When the time comes to propose, you and your partner might have already had a few discussions about budgets, styles, preferences and expectations. Your partner will know what you can afford and wouldn’t want you to rack up credit card debt just so you can spend the traditional amount on an engagement ring.
Besides, it’s the thought, meaning and commitment behind an engagement ring that gives it its true value.
Just because diamonds are the most popular stone for a classic engagement ring, it doesn’t mean the ring you choose must have a diamond. There are many ring designs out there that make for wonderful engagement rings, but feature different precious stones, such as amethyst, turquoise, emerald, ruby or sapphire. If you do want to propose with a ring that features a diamond, you could choose a trilogy design, with a small central diamond with a less expensive stone on either side. That way, you can still give your partner a diamond ring, but with a unique design that doesn’t cost as much.
The simple answer? Spend what feels right for you. The cost of an engagement ring doesn’t measure your love — if it did, you’d probably be looking at millions. That said, you might want to invest more than the bare minimum, as it’s one of the most meaningful purchases you’ll ever make. It’s all about finding the right balance between your budget and what feels special.
Before deciding how much you should spend, consider the following points:
Wedding planning expert and founder of Bridebook, Hamish Shephard, shares his opinion on the price of an engagement ring:
“Buying an engagement ring is a huge deal. It’s the start of your journey towards marriage and acts as a symbol of your love for your future spouse.
Once upon a time, there was an expectation that you’d have to spend thousands on an engagement ring. But, for many considering popping the question today, this simply isn’t an option – especially as the cost of the average wedding pushes £20,000 in the UK. Beginning your engagement and your subsequent wedding planning journey in debt because you felt obliged to spend a certain amount on a ring isn’t going to give you the strongest financial starting block. Only spend what you feel comfortable spending, because the most important thing about an engagement ring isn’t the carats or the cut of the diamond – it’s the commitment you’re making to that other person.”
Ready to find the perfect engagement ring but don’t want to break the bank? Below are a few tips to help you get started. Then, once the time comes to start planning your wedding, we have plenty more wedding-related cost-cutting information in our ultimate guide to saving money on your wedding.
Once you’ve popped the question and received your YES, you can begin making plans for your big day. Here at Bridebook, we use our expertise to help you plan the perfect wedding. Sign up today and start making those plans!